The UNFPA reported that nearly half of the births each year (121 million) were from unexpected pregnancies. Women who experience unwanted pregnancies have three general options: abortion, adoption, and motherhood. Nearly 18,000 children voluntarily get put up for adoption each year, making it one of the least popular options. Adoption allows a child to come into this world to a loving family who may not have the ability to procreate naturally. However, putting a child up for adoption is a life-altering decision that requires extensive forethought. Use these considerations to help you make your decision on whether or not to place your baby for adoption.
It costs an estimated $17,000 a year to raise a child. The most significant expenses include housing, education, and food. Additional fees include healthcare, home goods, toys, clothing, and recreational activities. Without a good job, a mom may not know how to support the child. Without sufficient monetary support, the child may experience neglect or pain.
Some mothers have money but don't feel that a child will fit into their lifestyle. For example, a woman with a time-consuming job and desires to travel after long nights at the office may not feel that a child fits into their lifestyle. Some mothers may also lead an unhealthy lifestyle that includes drugs or alcohol, which could create a traumatic environment for a child.
It takes a village to raise a child. Even mothers with financial support need assistance from time to time, especially for their first child. New parents have a lot of questions not always answered by parenting books. New mothers will also need a break on occasion. A strong support system of friends and family makes parenthood much easier. It also provides more love for the child. Young mothers with no support system may feel unable to tackle the situation alone.
Giving a child up for adoption is a loss similar to death. Many biological parents experience significant grief after the process. Pregnant women need to consider how the grief will weigh on them. At the same time, the mother must consider if they should take on the grief to ensure that the baby has a better life. Sometimes, it can be the most selfless act. As the biological parent, you have the choice to pick the family and keep in touch or go through a closed adoption process, depending on your preferences.
Adoption is the best choice for many young expectant mothers. Hopefully, these considerations help you make the best decision for you and your child.